
Photo is of Lilly, taken and edited by Cody. Datestamp: 2006.
The kids were down with versions of the flu last week. O, Influenza, with your days-long fevers and horrible-sounding coughs! I despise you and what you do to my children! They missed five days of school between them, which just made me glad that Jim and I have enough flexibility at our jobs to be able to manage such things without worrying about getting in trouble or not getting paid or whatever. Longtime readers know that this has not always been the case with us (hell,
school hasn’t always been the case with us, either, but when I was working part-time and they were homeschooled, it was not good at all if I missed even an hour of scheduled work. I hated when my little precarious work/money/kids balance got all upset, which it occasionally did, but we seemed to manage our way through). At any rate, they’re fine now, more or less.
If I could find the cord that attaches my camera to my computer, I’d post a few photos from the antiwar protest Cody organized with a friend of his last weekend. He was all over the teevee, granting interviews and sounding coherent and not in the least ruffled. I am occasionally interviewed in my line of work, and it
flummoxes me (sometimes to the point of near-incoherence -you should have seen me trying to shoot a 30-second spot last November. It wasn’t even live. I think we got what we needed after I kept the bumbling to a minimum on the 9th or 10th take), so I was especially psyched to see him carry himself so well. Of course, after all that protestin’ in the 15 degree windchill, he had to take to his chambers for the rest of the weekend. At least he wore a hat while he was outside.
Apparently there is some sort of Blogosphere Hubub over someone on the teevee’s disapproval of Mothers Who Ingest Alcohol While Socializing In View Of Their Kids. It appears the situation involves playdates involving kids, right, and while the kids play under the watchful eyes of all the assembled mothers, the mothers hang out, dish the dish, and have a drink or two if they’re so inclined. I can’t find a link, but I think it was on NBC this past week and it involved someone named Meredith Viera and someone named Melissa from a blog called
Suburban Bliss and, oh, a psychologist.
I won’t bore you with how silly I think Ms. Viera is (I don’t even know who she is); I’ll spare you stories about my own alcohol consumption while hanging out with other adults and various, assorted children. I’ll even forgo lengthy statements about fathers who drink in full view of their children and seem to escape criticism (like my own dad and his few beers while watching Twins games on Sundays, my mother nowhere in evidence to SAVE US FROM HIM!!!!). I guess I’m just perplexed about why this is a big deal all of a sudden. This is new, this Mommies Drinking thing? Uh - raise your hands if you were raised in the 70s! Right! OK!
I suppose that, back in The Day, I was probably being judged behind my back for my HARD-ROCKIN’ LIFESTYLE*, but no one ever gave me shit for having a beer at a picnic when Cody was a little kid. And if they had? I would have drawn myself up to my (considerable) full height, platinum blonde hair and red lipstick (it was 1994!) in full effect, and told the offender to EFF RIGHT THE EFF OFF.
Other parents have happily accepted the glasses of wine I offer when we have them and their kids over for dinner, and when I have a party? We invite everyone, their kids, and tell ‘em to BYOB. Seriously - I’ve never felt judged for this! Am I running around in the wrong circles? See, this is why I just don’t bother with the teevee, and especially the mainstream networks. They’re always on the lookout for scapegoats, and the mass media loves to pick on women, particularly mothers. FUCK THE HATERS, man… and bottoms up!
So, I’m not really writing much. I’m taking photos, but can’t really, you know, do anything with them. I’m knitting this… thing. I think it’ll be cool - I’m hoping to have it done for
Meghan the Glassblower’s wedding in May.
[I knit in the evenings, kids stowed away in their rooms for the night, with a few dark chocolate almonds and a HUGE-ASS GLASS OF WINE at the ready. Jim’s next to me on the couch; we watch LOTS OF VIOLENCE (
24) on DVD. I’m looking for a new series; violence is optional.]
I need to get some seeds for starting at the end of the month, but I am oddly uninspired right now. I’ll place a small order in a week or so, and then do a larger one in March or April.
Johnossi is playing at SXSW next month. Supposedly they just
slay live. I’m trying to figure out how Jim and I can sneak down to Austin for a couple of days. I doubt it’ll happen. This momentous event is taking place at the same time as a
conference in Baltimore that, while work wouldn’t pay for the conference or travel, work would not dock me for time off were I to attend. It is very likely that I’ll just stay right here, because sometimes inertia just takes over (hahaha), but one never knows. I really want to see Johnossi. I really want to do Farm Bill 2007 work. And a large part of me would really like to do nothing, because I could really use the sleep.
But… yes. I’m still here. It’s still, here. I feel like I’m hibernating.
*When Cody was very small, I was living in Chicago and working in the music business. His father lived there too, so we split the week in half in terms of taking care of the little guy. My nights without Cody were mostly spent going to rock shows because, you know, it was part of my job AND my kid was with his father. WITHOUT FAIL, EVERY SINGLE TIME, someone would ask me where Cody was. It could be 3 AM at the Blue Note on Armitage after the Stereolab show and I’d be hanging out with so-and-so, and invariably, someone would stop by the table and say, “Where’s Cody?” I finally would just feign horror and gasp, “Omigod! I left him in the cab!”